Overcoming Self-Criticism at Work
Have you ever struggled with self-criticism and self-defeating thoughts at work, especially when you’re entering the job market for the first time or transitioning to a new industry? I certainly did, and for years, I asked myself questions like:
Why can’t I learn things quickly enough?
Why can’t I finish tasks as fast as others?
Why can’t I analyze problems within the expected time frame?
I finally found the answer to these questions in a training session I attended a few weeks ago about when to delegate, when to direct, and when to coach.
The Driver’s License Metaphor: Understanding Career Growth
The lecturer used a metaphor based on the driver’s license system in New South Wales, Australia:
Learner Plate (L Plate): You are new to a topic or role and know almost nothing. At this stage, you require direct guidance from your supervisor. Delegating tasks to someone at this stage without support can cause stress and confusion.
Red P Plate: You have some experience but still need coaching. You can handle tasks but require guidance and practice in different scenarios.
Green P Plate: You have sufficient experience and mainly need confidence to perform your tasks independently. Supervisors can trust you with more responsibility.
Full License: At this stage, you can be delegated tasks fully, as you can complete most of the work autonomously.
This metaphor completely changed my perspective on self-criticism at work.
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My Experience as a New Lawyer
When I first started practicing law, I was given around 50 cases with almost no training. I had textbook knowledge but little practical guidance. I was expected to manage numerous stakeholders in each case.
Naturally, I criticised myself constantly:
• Why can’t I learn faster?
• Why can’t I complete tasks as efficiently as others?
• Why can’t I manage multiple cases simultaneously?
Looking back now, I realise I was still at the “Learner Plate” stage. I didn’t have the full experience or confidence required to perform at a high level yet.
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Applying the Concept to My Current Role
Even after moving to a new industry, I sometimes face tasks that are new to me. By applying this plate system metaphor, I can now neutrally analyse:
• When should I ask for more guidance
• When I can work independently
• What level of performance and satisfaction is reasonable for each task
For example, in my current role, my manager provides support and guidance, especially for tasks I’ve never done before. I know it’s reasonable to ask for help at the learner stage, and I understand the process of gaining confidence over time.
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Key Lessons for Workplace Self-Criticism
Recognise your stage of learning: Not every task requires you to have a full “license.” Accept where you are in your learning curve.
Expect reasonable support: If you’re new, it’s healthy to expect guidance and direction. A lack of support may indicate an unhealthy work environment.
Balance diligence with boundaries: While you should be keen to learn, don’t allow others to take advantage of your hard work.
For leaders: Use this concept to assess juniors. Provide more direction for learners, coaching for intermediates, and confidence-building for experienced team members.
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Final Thoughts
This training session finally relieved me from years of self-defeating and self-criticizing thoughts at work. I now understand when to ask for help, when to expect coaching, and when I can confidently work independently.
If you struggle with similar issues, I hope this concept can help you analyze your career growth and work environment more neutrally.
Feel free to share your experiences or thoughts in the comments below. I look forward to seeing you in our next episode.