We Broke Up. He Passed Away - Life Update After 1 Year
A year ago, I shared one of the hardest decisions in my life—choosing to end a long-term relationship. Today, I’m here with a life update. Not just about the breakup, but about something unexpected that happened afterwards.
A few months after we broke up… he passed away.
This is not the full story—that will come in the next series of posts—but this is an honest update of what has happened and what I’ve been through. If you are going through grief, loss, or major life changes, I hope this story reminds you: you are not alone.
We Broke Up… Then He Passed Away | Life Update After 1 Year
Recap: my break-up decision in Sep 2024
In September 2024, I decided to break up with my long-term partner.
At that time, it felt like an ending.
But looking back now, I realise—it was actually a beginning.
We chose to remain living together temporarily. Not as partners, but as housemates and financial partners, so we could manage our shared apartment and work toward a smoother financial settlement.
It was a peaceful breakup.
We still respected each other.
We still cared for each other.
We simply knew we were no longer meant to continue as romantic partners.
When he passed away
Three months later, in January 2025, something happened that no one could have expected.
He passed away due to an accident.
Even though we had already broken up, losing someone who was once such an important part of your life is not simple.
It brought a very complex kind of grief.
To the outside world, it looked like I had lost a partner as he passed away before we were ready and had a chance to let his family and my family know that we were no longer romantic partners.
To me, I lost someone who I feel grateful to and who is important to me. Someone I have shared life with for 4.5 years, and I have grown a lot from our relationship.
Grief doesn’t follow labels like “partner” or “ex.”
When someone passes away, the connection you had with them still matters.
A Year of Grief and Support
The past year has been a journey of navigating grief. A complicated one.
At the same time, I received an incredible amount of support—from colleagues, friends, family, and people around me.
My breakup decision is just a trigger for my life gears to start turning again
One of the biggest realisations I had is this:
What looked like an ending…It was actually the moment my life started to shift. Shortly after the breakup, even before he passed away, I began to feel drawn to spiritual content. It started with something very simple—watching a video about the Heart Sutra on YouTube. That small moment led me into a deeper journey of spiritual growth.
Over time, that path became clearer:
I began studying spiritual development
I started learning energy healing at Ashati Institute
I eventually stepped into becoming a qualified teacher under the Diana Cooper School of White Light
Looking back now, I can see that the breakup—and everything that followed—was a turning point.
What feels like an ending…can quietly become the beginning of something new.
Being single again allows me to come back to myself
I’ve been single since my ex-partner passed away.
I found being single again allowed me to come back to myself.
I did try to go on a date twice. But instead of finding a new partner, I discovered something more important:
The people we meet reflect our inner world. Those experiences helped me see parts of myself more clearly—my patterns, my emotions, my inner child. Through that awareness, I’ve been able to heal them, release them and embrace them.
What’s coming next
This post is just a life update.
In the next series, I’ll be sharing more deeply about three areas:
My grief journey
My 2 dates experience
— what those encounters revealed about my inner worldMy spiritual development journey
— how everything led me to energy healing and my current path
Sometimes, when we make a big decision—like ending a relationship—it feels like everything is falling apart.
But life doesn’t always move the way we expect.
What feels like an ending…
can quietly become the beginning of something new.
And sometimes, even the most painful experiences can open the door to a new version of yourself.