Stop Waiting, Choose Myself: Real Breakthrough in Self Love
Today, I want to share a personal breakthrough I had recently. It’s about overcoming the pattern of "waiting"—waiting for a partner, waiting for a pay rise, or waiting for a special occasion—and stepping into a vibration of pure, unconditional self love.
If you watched my latest episode of Growing ChitChat, you saw me beaming next to a massive, gorgeous bouquet of roses. But these aren’t just any flowers, and they didn’t come from a secret admirer, a future husband, or a boyfriend.
They came from the most important person in my life: Myself.
A spiritual message from my ex partner passed away in 2025 3 months after we broke up
Even though I am posting this around Valentine’s Day, this story actually starts with a different kind of anniversary.
I was connecting with the spirit of my ex-partner because his death anniversary was approaching at that time in January 2026. I asked him, "What kind of offering do you want?" I even asked if he wanted flowers.
His answer surprised me. He said no (which makes sense, he never cared for flowers!), but he gave me a very specific message: "I want you to buy a bunch of flowers that you like on that day when you visit me."
I hesitated at first. I knew if I was going to buy flowers for myself, I wouldn't settle for small. I wanted the best. I wanted the luxurious experience. But the old doubts crept in: Is this too expensive? Should I wait until I have more money? Should I wait until I have a partner to buy these for me?
But my intuition told me that buying this bunch of flowers was actually helping me make myself feel complete.
Overcoming old patterns
For a long time, I had this pattern of waiting for someone else to make me feel worthy. I thought I had to wait for a guy to treat me like a princess, or wait until my business reached a certain income level to treat myself.
But when I asked Quan Yin during my daily healing if this purchase would help me, the answer was a resounding YES. She told me it was helpful for my spiritual development journey.
So, I went to my favourite florist. I asked for the Premium Roses—the ones that are fresher, bloom bigger and last longer. I even paid extra for delivery so I could experience the joy of answering the door and receiving them.
I didn't regret a single cent. The moment they arrived, I didn't just feel happy; I felt a deep, touching sense of love coming from myself.
A loving card from my higher self
The night before I ordered the flowers, I connected with my Higher Self and wrote a card to accompany the bouquet. I want to share these words with you, because they are true for you, too:
"Beloved Yu-Han, I love you. You are my love. I am you. I am always with you.
We went through ups and downs together. You deserve the most beautiful and unconditional love in this world.
I love you. I love you because you are you. I became you because I believe in you.
I became you because your existence is good enough. I love you.
You and I are a team. I love you.
Thank you for enjoying every moment in your life. I love you.
Your existence itself worth being treated the best I love you.
I am your higher self. I love you. My Love."
I felt so touched. It wasn't about vanity; it was about recognising that our existence is worth unconditional love.
What Real Self Love Feels Like
We talk a lot about loving and taking care of ourselves in the spiritual community. But I’ve learned that real self love isn't just about spending lots of money.
The real self love is when we do something for ourselves, and we feel a deep sense of gratitude and emotion for ourselves. It’s that feeling of being "touched" by your own kindness.
I am so proud that I broke through my old patterns. I didn't wait for the perfect financial moment. I didn't wait for a man or my future rich self. I honoured my Higher Self, and I honoured my own worthiness.
The real self love and self care is when we do that for ourselves, we feel a lot of love from ourselves and we feel touching from what we have done for us.
You Are Worth It
If you are reading this, take this as your sign. Don't wait for your job promotion. Don't wait for the partner. Don't wait for a "better time."
Your existence itself is worth being treated the best. You are worth feeling loved and safe unconditionally.